Katherine R. Lester is a straight-A student and student council member, her father said. "She's a good girl. Never had a problem with her," Terry Lester said.Yea, until now.
Yeah, like for sure I would get my 16 year old a passport to anywhere, unless I was going with them. I wouldn't even let my child go on the "Senior Trip" after graduating from high school. Let's not forget what might have happened to Natalee. At least Katherine's still alive. I chalk all of this kind of crap up to some parents being idiots.....myspace is being used as a scapegoat - her parents should have been monitoring her activity on the computer. And I don't want to hear any whining about how impossible that might be.
ditto anon 5:04
That is the most idiotic thing I've ever heard a parent consent to! Amazing, yet so lucky they caught her in time.
The guy could be from one of those wacko countries where they believe that God determines the appropriate age of consent.
When my daughter was 16 she wouldn't have stood a CHANCE of getting out of town without me knowing it let alone the country. Parents in this country have lost their ever loving minds...
shit happens, you would all probably trust your straight A never-had-a-bpyfriend-daughter as well.Maybe that was the issue to begin with, too tied up in the "perfect chains". Had to break out big time.
5:04 - certainly you are right that the parents should have been monitoring the computer, but kids are creative - they will find ways to get on those computers and with the cell phone capabilities - well the list goes on. The denial approach doesn't work raising children - they are all going to do something, get by with it or get caught doing it.Do any of us remember our youth and some of the stunts we pulled?It is so difficult raising children, whether they have cell phones, computers or not.Just difficult. My prayers are with every parent or grandparent trying to raise a teen in today's crazy world.
Frankly, it is not that difficult to raise teenagers these days, if you know what you're doing. And it starts very early. If you wait until they actually are teenagers to instill values, independent thought, self esteem, creativity and all those things...you're too late. Then it's just a war. But if you're steady from the beginning, and pick only those battles that are important, your kids will be fine even in today's world.
10:09 - good points. I found in raising mine that I needed reinforcement from good friends - the "they can't do this, so YOU can't either" worked so well when they gave me the "everybody else is doing it" routine.The church helped too.But even with both of these, I found out some things mine did that were confessed at family gatherings - things that I wish they had not done, but did.What we hope for as parents is that those "things" are not so serious as to bring danger to them or others.I think we have a better chance of our kids towing the line in a small community where folks know our families and help keep an eye on our children.
During the era that I grew up in, it was very possible that even a neighbor could bust your butt if they caught you doing something wrong. When the neighbor caught you messing up, they busted your butt, called your parents, then you got your butt busted again when you got home. If that were happen today, the parents would would file a lawsuit on the neighbor. It takes good parenting to raise children, but it also takes a community to raise them well.
12:35 - very well said. We had a highway patrolman in our church and the kids all knew his black/white. Boy did they slow down when he approached.Parents can't be everywhere their kids are. Having others keep a watchful eye is very comforting. Then we can repay by keeping that watchful eye out for somebody else's child.
I agree that it takes a community, and I agree on Anon 12.34 ""they can't do this, so YOU can't either". I'm 18 myself, but I still take the freedom to have opinions about this.So I think "busting butt" (spanking?) will do more harm than good. Fear isn't the same as respect.It's illegal to spank children where I live, Sweden, so I would definately turn anyone in who did that.Weird story though, seems like a hell of a rebellion.
3:57 -it may interest you to know that a minister's wife who is an acquaintance of mine agrees with you. She feels that spanking is done to a child BECAUSE THE PARENT IS MAD, rather than for the purposes of discipline.I would agree that spanking in that vein would be wrong, but occasionally a child has to be disciplined for bad behaviors. In our day (the stone age) it was the old stand in the corner at school or the washing out of the mouth with soap for a word of profanity.Course we have so much profanity now that is accepted, the soap folks would go out of business on that one - which I always thought was stupid.And you are so right. Respect is much more important than fear. You are a very wise 18 year old!
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