7.30.2012

Identity of Alvord Girl Who Died Yesterday Has Been Released



And I found this video of her. What a head shaking tragedy.

109 comments:

Anonymous said...

Burlington Northern fails to prevent any further deaths in the Alvord area. This has been going on for too long.

Anonymous said...

Very beautiful girl....loved her. Extremely talented in her sports endeavors. So very very sad she chose this path. I'm just at a loss....

Anonymous said...

My heart hurts and I have never even met her....

Anonymous said...

Sad sad that bullying jealousy and just plain meaness from so called best friends,boys, and some of the girls parents could make life so miserable that ending your life is better than living. I hope these people see what they have done and can live with there decisions. God bless Buffy and the rest of the family. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

Tammy

Anonymous said...

Tammy,
When used in a possessive form the correct spelling is "their".

Many times young children don't get the support from the parental figures when life seems to be "tough" in the teen years.

When this happens we tend to look for a quick excuse. The current fad is "bullying".

While we were all "bullied" in school (we called it life) now society allows for a quick solution. Local media outlets glorify these actions and then others see this as a quick fix for them as well.

Had there been a parental figure to lend support, many times this can be avoided.

Anonymous said...

I wondered when I heard about this tragedy if there was some bullying going on. So sad I don't understand mean kids and there parents.

Anonymous said...

So Sad. Life is hard at that age.

Anonymous said...

I'm sure there were several issues leading up to this tragedy. However, the bullying issue is a large factor. It is here in our backyard, now what do we do... Maybe we need to start dealing with this as parents and adults, not depending solely on schools. The adults need to make sure they don't bully and they stop there kids from bullying. It is our job to police our kids and what they are doing and stop it, not join in. We need to be the example, we need to quit categorizing people by how much money they have or don't have and by their last names. The kids are simply following the lead of the adults. The adults need to step up and protect the kids!

Anonymous said...

Everytime I hear of a young life coming to an early end, I am greatly saddened. The Alvord community has more than its share of these tragic deaths. God Bless this young lady, family, and friends with peace and comfort.

I sure hope that all posts by those who would take this young girl's death as an opportunity to try to be funny or thoughtless on this blog will be edited.

Anonymous said...

Thoughts and prayers for the young lady's family, friends, and classmates. A terrible loss.

Fr. O'Malley said...

My heart aches.

Anonymous said...

This is so sad..but she is with God now..no more sorrow. I hope there is no one left who may have played a role in her sadness that led to her decision to take her own life...for anyone in that position may God have mercy on their souls.

Anonymous said...

Bullying is not a cause of tragedy. It is a by-product of the wussification of America brought to you by liberal thought control

Anonymous said...

I am shocked that this lovely young girl could have taken her own life. It surely was more than bullying, as some have said.

Anonymous said...

2:31
I totally agree with your comment. All the teaching of these children need to start at home and not at school. I have worked in education for 10+ years and we can only do so much in a 7 and a half hour day. I am not from the area but have lived here for 6 years and Wise County is the most judgemental place I have ever lived. The majority of the people base who you are on the amount of money you have, what you drive, and how you dress. It's just crazy! Sending prayers out to the family and community of this beautiful child!

Anonymous said...

Check the neighbor's kids and check your kids for signs of depression. STOP and take the time to talk to the individual. Family is the only thing that stays relevant thru our life. Even then, it is a changing veriable. there are no re-runs.

Anonymous said...

12:49 What is Burlington Northern supposed to do about this, put a prison fence around the tracks? Why is this BN's fault?

Anonymous said...

The only reason there is attention brought to Bullying is because the kids aren't allowed to stand up for theirselves.

Anonymous said...

Hey,1:39, it is hard to believe that you were ever truly bullied as you seem to have such a cavalier attitude about it. Society should not accept bullying as just a part of life. And our young people should not have to accept it as such. It is cruel and should not be tolerated in any form! You talk about the parents of the bullied child, well, what about the parents of the bullies! They are the ones who could really put a stop to it. It's high time the act of bullying be brought to the forefront and something be done before it permeates our schools and society more than it already has. And, by the way, your correction of Tammy's grammar was just plain petty!

ANDY said...

WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE BURLINGTON DO?

BLESS THE CHILD AND LETS TRY NOT TO JUDGE TILL A LITTLE MORE IS KNOWN.

Anonymous said...

BN provides zero training in suicide on track. Their police don't even respond half the time unless it's a fatal accident or major theft. They know the dangers of the area as they have been here before but still are ignoring the problem. Ask any train service employees before you spout off. Even most of the local police agencies have zero respect for the rail dicks. They never show up to their calls.

Anonymous said...

I did know this beautiful girl. That video doesent even do her justice. She was a great kid. One you would have never thought would do this. She was one of my favorite kids, next to my own. Always had a smile on her face. She had everything going for her. It is a senseless tragedy. I hate that she hurt so bad that this was what she thought was the only way out. I wish someone could have been there for her to be on her side. She was truly loved in our community. She will be greatly missed and never forgotten. I am heartbroken. I cant deal with another tragedy like this. I have had ties to all of the recent deaths. I dont know how we can endure any more. Please keep Alvord in your prayers as we face the days to come. Our kids just cant handle anything else. Its hard enough for us to understand. I dont know how we can even explain it to them. We love you Cheyanne. RIP

Anonymous said...

It's hard to deal with bullying because most times the parents of them are also, making it impossible to talk with them.

Anonymous said...

I hope all the other kids know who the bullies were..bet their peers could stop it before any parent could.

Anonymous said...

Most people forget that when you are pointing fingers you have 3 pointing at yourself. People need to know the facts before they start gossiping! This was NOT a case of bullying from either kids or parents. Cheyanne will be missed by many.

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to this girls family and the community. The bully or bullies with have this on their conscience for the rest of their miserable lives. In my opinion that is not punishment enough. The reason people bully is because they themselves have self esteem issues. Usually when someone stands up to the bully , they back down and all their posse goes running. It is sad what has happened at our schools when corporal punishment and God gets replaced with time out and condoms. It is our society as a whole. Lack or morality and guts has turned our once great country into a bunch of gutless victims.

Anonymous said...

What is up with the Newark Library?

Anonymous said...

Let's try not to judge then either.

Anonymous said...

I was told she left a detailed letter. This is so very sad. It will be interesting to see how or if our legal system will step in. I did hear that adults were involved in some form of bullying, of course that is just rumor,for I have not seen any evidence. However, I will be paying attention to see if any accountablity is addressed. If this had happened in school, between children, police would be involved. If the facts present themselves as an adult to child bullying offense, I wonder if our county will get their brooms out and raise the rug up ,or actually have the courage to address the issue.

Anonymous said...

Anon 1:39, when you start a sentence in the past tense, all verbs should be past tense.

It takes true white to point out grammatical errors, all the while commiting errors themselves.

Rage

Anonymous said...

Please, Please, know your facts before you assume there was bullying involved. There was not. By posting hateful things about these parents and children who are already devestated - are you not bullying them? Will your words create another tradegy? Think people....Please don't post! Just PRAY!

JT said...

Anon 4:40:

Praying to god is not going to solve this or any other tragedy. Ever.

Praying to god does as much good as dropping a hundred dollar bill into the wishing well and wishing this would all go away. God falls in the same category of santa claus and the tooth fairy; --> imaginary creatures.

The only way to deal with this is to be parents to our kids. Sit down and talk with them about the signs of bullying. I have taught my kids that they should at least let me know they saw something happen at school. I then tell them it is ok to stand up for the kid that is getting bullied.

They know there are severe consequences if they start fights at school, but they know I will go toe to toe with the principal to defend them if they get in a scuffle defending a kid that may be getting bullied.

But, as a society, we are not going to get anything done if you believe that praying to god is solve any of your problems.

Anonymous said...

Amen JT

Anonymous said...

Folks, realize that a railroad company can do absolutely NOTHING about someone who wants to commit suicide on the track. Trains can't stop on a dime. Check out your basic physics. So drop the stupid BN comments.

Anonymous said...

@6:47. God bless you. Bahahahaha

Anonymous said...

The Bnsf has police that are supposed to patrol, their right of way but don't. They won't even answer half their calls. They put the burden on the sheriffs dept. Then lame blame the train crews.

Anonymous said...

647 To bad you feel that way about God. Prayers are answered when one believes. I hope you find him before your time comes because it will be a sad day for you when you realize you lost your one and only chance at salvation. A free gift to all. I will pray for your soul because you surely will not be with us in heaven! John 3:16 Try picking up a bible some time.

Anonymous said...

Stop with blaming BNSF, that is pure BS, idiots!
And, I guess we have an athiest joining the group...6:47!
Her note will surely be known at some point, so no use in assuming anything, but where there is smoke there is fire..some people know of bullying sounds to be like.

Anonymous said...

All the people bashing BNSF, I agree that their police do not respond like they should however this seems to only be a problem in the Alvord area. There are train tracks that run through almost every city in Wise county Decatur, Rhome, Alvord, Newark, Boyd, Paradise, Bridgeport and Chico the thing is we do not have this problem any where else in the County. Mabey the Parents and schools should start trying to protect their young people and educate them on how do deal with LIFE, I have a child who has been Bullied it isnt easy but with good parentin and listening and even talking to the kids parents who were doing the bullying we got through it.

bordandstroked said...

The railroad has the right of way at all railway crossings. It's YOUR responsibility to watch out for THEM. And if someone deliberately walks or drives onto the tracks in front of an oncoming train, I can't see how you can place the blame on Burlington Northern. That would be like climbing a pole and grabbing the power wires and being electrocuted, then blaming the power company because they were electrified.

Anonymous said...

JT -
But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe. Then Jesus told him, “Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.”
John 20:24-30
One day EVERY KNEE shall bow and EVERY TONGUE confess. JT that will include you, but unless you reach out to Christ now, your eternal future doesn't bode well.

Anonymous said...

4:02 "BLESS THE CHILD AND LETS TRY NOT TO JUDGE TILL A LITTLE MORE IS KNOWN".

Let's try not to judge till a little more is known?????

WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE?

Anonymous said...

all of you saying that bullying is not a valid issue today may be overlooking the fact that kids today can face bullying nearly everywhere they turn, facebook, youtube, via blast text messages, etc. when we were kids it was on the playground and was just as easy to stop as it was to start.

it's not necessarily the same, and it is rather short sighted to assume it is.

Anonymous said...

This was such an unnecessary death! Everything will eventually come to light and it should. If she did take her life after being bullied then there needs to be some real soul searching going on with those who took part! This tragedy is not just some event that people need to blow off. I certainly hope the law will be interrogating those who witnessed and those who took part in that evening's barrage of criticisms and blame aimed at this young woman. Please people, do not protect or cover for your friends if they did take part. They must be made to answer for what has occurred. A child is dead, gone, never to return home due to the events of that evening. I hope there is a law that will hold those at fault accountable. Words may not be bullets, but that night, words spoken to her might just as well have been. The result is the same. Some people will have to live their life knowing they were a catalyst in this child's death. I hope it eats on them daily, but I would prefer a lengthy jail sentence for them. That might set a more visible example for others to learn that one just might want to keep their mouth shut when it is full of venom. If I were a friend or coworker with the people involved, I believe I would just have to say to them - you have to live with what you did. I have no compassion for them. This child will never see a tomorrow.

JT said...

Anon 10:00pm and 9:01am:

The funny thing is I used to believe in god. I read the bible, I went to church, and I prayed. I prayed a lot. Prayed for health, prayed over my food, even prayed for confirmation that the woman I was dating was 'the one'.

Funny thing was, I still got the flu, still got a case of food poisoning, and wouldn't you know it, the woman I was dating made a lousy wife.

So, I took my blinders off, and decided to do a test. I would stop praying, stop paying a tithe, and stopped waiting for the man in the sky to do something for me.

The result? My health didn't get worse, my food didn't kill me, I actually had more money in my pocket, and went out and found a better job, because I did something.

Unfortunately, my wife didn't get any better, but then again, god wasn't going to make her any better, right?

The funny thing is, I have had a greater feeling of inner peace after accepting the fact there is no god, than I ever did as a believer. I am living my life for today, because there is nothing after you die. Once I recognized that, there was a huge weight lifted off of my chest.

I, as a non-believer can accept that you have a faith in god. I can live with that, and listen to your ideas and suggestions. Believers, on the other hand, are compelled for some reason to preach to folks like me who happen to believe something different.

Since this original post was about the effects of bullying, in general, I feel that most christians feel they have to bully people into believing like they do. The muslims proclaim death to infidels. Is that not the ultimate form of bullying?

How many atheists do you know who want to kill their neighbor because they BELIEVE in a god? None. I want you to enjoy life. Live it to the fullest. But please, accept the fact that other people believe differently than you do. There is no need to try and convert everyone to your faith.

My original post was to ask people to put as much energy into talking with their kids and being a parent as they supposedly do in 'praying with all their might' so that the bullying would stop. It won't end on its own.

Anonymous said...

JT, did you think prayer was going to get you up and out of bed too?

Good grief, you really need more education or something.

We are here to live by our choices. If you chose to believe there is no God, and deny Him, that is your choice. (Have to wonder how you think we all got here?) Part of being Christian is witnessing - telling others that Christ is there for the taking. But no, you don't have to, that is choice.

More than likely, if you believe there is nothing after this life, then that may be just what you get.

I am insulted that you chose this post to do your preaching under, however. Those who know this girl are mostly believers and realize she is in Heaven with others who have gone before her. How dare you bring the idea here that she is gone and there is no eternal afterlife for her and still have the audacity to complain that other people annoy you by their preaching to non-believers.

Here's something you need to look up: Hypocrite

You'll probably see your picture there as an illustration.

Then, post elsewhere and let the believers comfort this girls family!

Anonymous said...

JT
I can respect your beliefs and I don't judge you but I do feel sorry for you because in death you will open up your eyes in hell and you are there for eternity! I pray God will in some way speak to you and please if you have children let them decide for their self if there is a God!

Another Atheist said...

Right on JT!

Anonymous said...

The Railroad does have the right of way but also must follow the GCOR rules. The BNSF wont even respond to these people trespassing, stealing, etc, and then get all sincere as a big tobacco company executive when someone is killed. They ignore any training for these situations and instead place all importance on rules. It is not the railroad where it was based on skill, it's all about rules now.

Anonymous said...

Burlington has had problems in other towns too. They have have placed unnecessary burdens on the local fire departments by not maintaining their property and we are tired of them catching the place on fire and having to put them out. Then they want to be cheapskates when it comes time to reimburse.

Anonymous said...

Can anyone actually prove that God exists?

JT said...

Anon 11:20,

You proved my point of religious bullying. You cannot accept the fact that I have a different belief than yours, yet you feel compelled to call me names and question my education.

I have not made one comment about this poor girl or her family. My comments were directed at those that said lets pray for the bullying to stop.

I do feel sorry for this girl, and the pain that uncaring kids cause, but you sir, are certainly not the poster child of the stop the bullying movement. You are more concerned about furthering your christian cause.

Go back and read your post, and instead of it being directed at me, replace atheist with a different christian belief such as jehovah witnesses, or even muslims. Just because they believe differently, are you going to call them names, and question their education?

Are you even taking the teaching of turn the other cheek to heart? You felt slighted or injured because I said lets do something other than pray and your response was to attack me.

Hmmm. Is that how you witness for christ, by attacking someone?

I think there was a quote in that bible somewhere that said 'by their fruits, ye shall know them...'

Anonymous said...

12:32, Do you expect them to put an inpenetrable fence around all the Railroads they own? How does any of what you are saying stop someone from stepping in front of a train if they so decide? What amount of "skill" could stop a train before it hits suicidal person? Are they supposed to sense trouble a couple of miles up the tracks and hit the brakes before someone jumps in front?

Anonymous said...

Can anyone prove he doesn't!

JT said...

Anon 11:40,

You believe differently than I do, yet I don't feel sorry for you.

I don't believe in a heaven or hell. I believe in the best person I can be WHILE I AM ALIVE. I don't think professing to be a believer in some religion is going to get me a mansion in the sky.

I have no malice towards you, but wish christians as a whole would understand that those that have different views do not need to be prayed over or for. Don't need our name on the prayer rolls. We get it that you believe in god, but we don't need you to save us.

I don't feel sorry for you, please don't feel sorry for me. I am not going to pray for you, please spend your time other than praying for me.

Anonymous said...

I will never get over the hatred and lies people can post on this blog with no accountability. Bullies learn from their parents, and their are several on here. So, before you go and post another word about a situation you know nothing about - go back and check your posts and see if they could be perceived as helpful. If they are not - they are harmful which makes you, the poster , a bully!

Anonymous said...

2:34, it is called Rule 6.27 and 6.28.

Anonymous said...

bnsf kills

Anonymous said...

2:34 sounds like a corporate fat cat for the railroad. STFU! It could be your kid next!

Anonymous said...

Bless this CHILD's family !
Keep your own children close and let no-one tear them from you!

Anonymous said...

3:06, You are an idiot, how can BNSF be blamed for someone wanting to end it. A train cannot be stopped in time; do you expect the engineer to be clairvoyant? I do not work for the railroad, and If my kid decided to go out like that, I would bear the responsibility as a parent for failing my child.

2:34, What are you even talking about, what Rules could have prevented an individual from committing suicide? Explain to me in detail how Rule 6.27 and 6.28 could have prevented this death.

Anonymous said...

12:41 Just step out your front door and see the sunrise, the stars the proof is all around you we did not crawl out of the water and become some monkey and then a man our minds and bodies are alot more complex than that!! We are a created being and God is our creator!

Anonymous said...

I blame the Santa Fe, not the BN.

Anonymous said...

I blame Warren Buffett. The railroad has zero No Trespassing signs. Hope the family sues!

Anonymous said...

The bullies need to be bullied.

Anonymous said...

Whenever something horrible happens we all jump to anger, it helps to have an outlet when something makes no sense. Instead of fighting each other over religious beliefs, morals, and blame, let's use all this energy to work together and help our children! 

I do have first hand information as to the events that lead to this tragedy, I do believe that something happened and i am positive it will all surface soon enough. I feel bullying played a role in this child's decision, there was a detailed note and it did point to that fact.  
That however is not my cross to bear, and in the end  no one will be answering to me so all I can do now is try and prevent another tragedy.

The fighting and accusations will not bring this sweet girl back, but we as adults,parents, and leaders can fight together to prevent another tragedy.
Bullying comes in many forms, there is not a set of standard guidelines a bully follows. We can call this a bump in life and tell them to be tough while we look the other way but it will only hurt them. These kids need us, they need a rule, eventually a law, "Alvords Angels", that protect them from the cruelty that can come from peers and adults alike. 

Please come together as a community and stand up for our kids, our future generations, and put all of the differences aside and agree they need us. 

Let's go to our school officials, attend meetings, talk to our town representatives! Come on Alvord, enough kids, enough funerals! Let's stand united instead of divided  and  come together for the kids who are hurting now. They are all looking at us on how we respond to these tragedies, all eyes are on us. Let's lead them in the right direction and show them how valuable life is. Hug them, love them, and guide them.

There  is a reason for a legal age of adulthood, until that age, and sometimes past it, we as parents are gods custodians of these children, and it is our duty and responsibility to protect,teach,and guide them into their next phase in life. We then become mentors with open hearts and strong ears, because if we don't listen who will.

Anonymous said...

JT, maybe you need to reread 11:20s post again. I agree with that poster. You don't want people preaching their beliefs to you, yet you come here and preach your beliefs. That is hypocritical. It isn't name calling, it is simply what you are being. The other poster isn't even arguing with you and says it is your choice. You have chosen.
Move on.

Anonymous said...

I created man.

Df ancient alien.

Anonymous said...

Only two deaths of these kids were the kids in control. One made a bad choice by walking on track other wanted to end her life.

Four youth deaths were due to neglect by adult drivers.

And one youth death was due to health issues.

Yes we need to come together as a community and I believe we have. We all pull together in time of tragedy to help each other.

The rumored situation Saturday evening at reunion between the young girl and her so called best friends and their parents is unfortunate but it is not our place to judge. They will have to live with the guilt.

God Bless all our Angels and all their families. We love them all!

Anonymous said...

OMG you people are just as bad as any bully this is not the time or place to judging anybody at this our little town needs to pull together and get through this together. This was a wonderful and beautiful young girl.....get your facts straight before you just go posting a bunch of crap on here that you dont know anything about if you were not there then you dont know what happened that night and your pointing your fingers and judging people right is just as bad if not worse than ne other form of bullying. This was a very sad tragedy and these kids and families need to pull together to be strong for one another right now they dont need all of this crap and rumors started on here so make sure you know what your talking about before you post it.

Anonymous said...

2:46, it might be you who doesn't know what you are talking about. Or maybe you were one who was present that night. This is no time to excuse then events of that evening or to threaten those who are saying they are fed up with bullying. What occurred is what it is, and it is more than rumors. Let those who were involved face and learn from their mistakes.

Anonymous said...

No one wants to stop and think ever, "Could my words have really hurt" at the time a coach is accusing a child (a child) of lying about pain in front of other children, these kids see this as ok to accuse, accost or taunt. In a small town everyone knows (or at least they think) everyones business, and there is always the "upper group" these are usually the children of parents that bare no expense to help their children "rise to the top" and most of the time that "expense" is stepping on someone else. Kids can be vicious now days, and parents support this and even encourage it. They give their children everything, because they wouldn't want their child to be mad at them or not be popular. Coaches and Parents in Alvord, you know what you have done and what you have encouraged and watched your children do - Step up and take responsibility for this tradgedy. What are you teaching your children now? Hide and Lie? A soul has been lost, a daughter, granddaughter, sister and much more and child! A CHILD!! Is middle school or high school accolades that important, that a child would want to end their life? My heart breaks for all of you, all of you!! If as much time was spent on kindness as it is on putting down others, our world would be a much happier place.

Anonymous said...

2:46
Are you feeling guilty? Did you witness or take part in the bullying of this child? Do you know what she was going through and did nothing? Why would a coach accuse a child of not being injured? Why would a adult who wanted to teach children accuse a child of not hurting. She was hurt not only physically but emotionally!!! Shame on you all!!!

Anonymous said...

Why doesn't the parents come forward that were at the Reunion Friday night and that were a party to what went on with this child. Why do you want to hide now, why do you want to comfort the family? You had no regard for them in front of your buddies!! I fully beleive the names of all of you should be listed!! Adults belittling children. And you wonder why our world is in such a bad shape!! Remember you reap what you sow and you are sowing narssasistic future adults. But, go sit and sip tea in your little circle of friends and discuss how what you did could not have made this child reach the decision she did. Be sure and tell the coach, she was hurt!!!

Anonymous said...

The downside of not being in the "in" crowd at the Reunion? If this was the case. the people who belittled her should be called out. This Wise County social status crap has gotten ridiculous.

Anonymous said...

Francis Farmer will have her revenge on Seattle, and this girl on Alvord.

Anonymous said...

9:37 pm, Really?
If you read your "statement" it would appear that you are blaming two of these children for their deaths.! It is as though you have cast two to the side because in your opinion, one was careless and one chose to end her life.
I am heart broke by your comment, I hope that others are able to see that all six deaths are tragic and the way they died should not be a classification of importance nor used as a tool to judge them by! Each and everyone of them left this world way too soon, and each and everyone of them was important, loved, and is truly missed everyday no matter what the cause of death was! If these comments are how "we come together" and help each other,then I have to ask myself if this really where I need to be!
I find it strange that you mention the Reunion and then say not to judge. I have seen nothing on this site or any other, that would indicate the events at the "reunion" caused Cheyanne to kill herself. You are the only one who put that on here up to this point, Makes me wonder where you there.....Think before you post. these kids all have families and siblings and people who truly loved them. I can guarantee if the tragedy of any of these "children" directly effected you, you would not be on here talking about being non judgmental!

Anonymous said...

I posted 9:37 comment.. I was simply referencing the Alvord Angels law the person at 8:29 referenced.

That post made it sound like all of these deaths could be avoided if the communinty came together with this law. Sorry for my misunderstanding. I know all the families and it breaks my heart. I like everyone else am trying to figure out what is going on and why it keeps happening to MY town and OUR youth. I am very proud the community comes together in a time of need and helps everyone out. I just wish it didnt have to be tragedy that brought us together.

The "rumor" i referenced is what everyone in Alvord is talking aboUt

Anonymous said...

A coach was involved with the bullying? Really? If that is so, this coach might as well take his or her family and move out of Wise County because it will not be kept secret...all will know...their lives will be a living hell here.

Anonymous said...

2:49 Go ask the Coach and see if she will step up and admit she accused this child of faking it!! Of not really hurting!! If she does not, she will answer for her lies!!

Anonymous said...

9:37, I am a big enough person to admit when I'm wrong. I am sorry. I mis-understood your statement. I believe the "law" referenced in 8:29 was in reaction to the rumors as well as first hand dealings here with bullying. Everyone of these deaths were tragic and one should never try and downplay one for another. cheyannes death may have been avoided if we had more awareness. If we were aware we could stop this from happening again by watching and listening and stepping in if we witness this happening. And as I am writing this, in the other children's cases, we could advocate for more awareness and mandatory classes by the railroad about the dangers of the train tracks and then for the girls, defensive driving, the effects of distractions when on the road etc....and as for the child with the illness, one day a year dedicated to the awareness of the illness that took that child's life. I think Alvords Angels Could be representative to all of these Angels, and again I am sorry I misunderstood and reacted before asking what you meant.

Anonymous said...

I think you are all over reacting. Teens have problems, even death causing, everywhere. Alvord is no exception...just small and more noticeable. This is an old problem...stay close to your kids...things can still happen to them, but at least you might know their problems and find a ways to help them cope...some things are out of your hands...just have to keep moving forward...life is hard..always has been..always will be.

Anonymous said...

The FACTS are - there was no coach or parent bullying! PERIOD! So stop posting stuff that you know nothing about. To post these accusations without knowing the facts makes YOU the bullier! It also makes you guilty of slander! STOP AND THINK PEOPLE! The Reunion issue was a group of parents who WERE ASKED by Cheyenne's parent to "talk to her about some decisions she had made." In small towns, everyone raises each other's kids. That is ALL that was, and you guys need to understand that because EVERY parent has been asked at one time or another to help councel someone else's child. As far as a coach asking about the extent of an injury - isn't that their job? How else are they to know if they need to seak treatment or see the trainer? You guys are jumping on a wagon here that DOES NOT EXIST! And lastly - Is there a kid on this earth who has never been mean to another kid? Is there a kid on earth that hasn't experienced peer bullying at one point or another? Yes, it happens and we as adults need to teach our kids how to be kind to people and how not to judge and belittle. But isn't that what you guys are doing on this blog? Get a life people -If you are not part of the solution, then you are part of the problem. These parents and these coaches you are speaking of helped raise my kids - and I would be proud to call them for help at ANY time. So please STOP being part of the PROBLEM. Just Stop!

Anonymous said...

Coaches and parents, not Therapists,that is all I am saying. Think before speak, you never know how your words can impact someone.

Anonymous said...

All of the post that are being posted stating there was no bullying has absolutely no idea what they are talking about. Cheyenne personally told me on numerous occasions that her coach had accused her of faking her knee and hip injury. Her so called best friends also accused her of faking so she could get out of running during practices. Cheyenne has been bullied by these same girls throughout 6th, 7th and 8th grade. The bullying with her injuries did not start until her 7th grade year. Cheyenne just wanted to be accepted and be true friends with these girls. Even though we tried to change her mind, she was determined to be in that group of girls. I knew Cheyenne very well and will admit she could be tacky and mean sometimes to other kids but, I will say it was not a constant beat down meanness. I loved Cheyenne and really wished she would have thought she had something to live for. She was such a great kid with so much a head of her.

Anonymous said...

REALLY 10:58am ARE YOU SERIOUS or JUST STUPID!

I was at the memorial service today & it was a heart wrenching scene! This child's death was totally senseless! As Mr. Demmit said Cheyanne lost HOPE, so if what your saying is true in regards to parents being asked to talk to Cheyanne about decisions she had made, then please tell me who they are because I NEVER WANT THEM to talk to my child, because whatever they said to her that night, helped to push her over the edge!

JUST CURIOUS ARE YOU THE BROOM SWEEPER or ARE YOU THE RUG HOLDER!

You are the one who needs to stop & think, because what you posted pretty much confirms some of the comments that has been posted on here to be true. I do know for a fact that someone posted a comment on facebook that pretty much incriminated themselves to what they had done but later went & deleted their comment! I sure hope someone was smart & quick enough to copy what they wrote!

Just a thought for you, don't you think it to be kinda strange to have a Wise County Deputy Sheriff & a Detective present at a child's memorial service if things was as peaches as you are trying to make it to be?????

Regardless, if it to be found that parents were the ones that pushed this young girl over the edge, I hope & pray you are punished to the full extent of the law & everyday & hour of your life it will haunt you because Cheyanne had way too much to live for to have had her's end at such a young age!

Anonymous said...

9:09 Standing Ovation!! I was at that service today as well. I heard a person say, that people in Alvord gather the brooms and while others run to hold the rug!! I did not know this person, she was an Alvord resident. I agree with you, I am glad my children are grown, because if "these" people of Alvord that are "helping raise" everyones elses children, do to others what they did to Cheyanne, God Bless the babies in Alvord. Those Mom's and their children know what they did to Cheyanne. And I bet there were people smart enough to copy and paste!!

Anonymous said...

I do not think you would find many parents who would agree with the statement "in small towns everyone raises each other's kids". That is rediculous...is a way of thinking that should be abolished. Raise your own kids for heavens sakes! And, do not let them be strong armed into sports or too much outside of school activities. I am afraid the poor child was stretched too thin and could not handle the stress.So glad my kids are grown and I don't live in Alvord.

Anonymous said...

10:00 You are so right, and who in their right minds would want someone else to raise their child, and especially if they treat them as they did Cheyanne.

I believe that a Coach should check the health of the kids, what I do NOT believe, is a Coach should ridicule a child for being hurt. Should a Coach check the emotional health of a child? If a Coach does not beleive the child is truthful, this starts a relationship that the child beleives is based on lies. The Coach should be the Adult!

Anonymous said...

10:58 AM,
if it is true that Cheyann's parent asked for help in talking to this child, then why in the world would that take place at the reunion in front of an audience? oh my goodness, could it not have
been done in private? maybe it would not have been so devistating to Cheyann if it had taken place in private!!

Anonymous said...

"That is ALL that was, and you guys need to understand that because EVERY parent has been asked at one time or another to help councel someone else's child."

Every parent has been asked to council someone else's child???

Hardly!!

Anonymous said...

I agree with 10:58 - If you are not part of the solution - YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. Posting this crap is not helping!

Anonymous said...

12:34 - I've seen a lot of kids and adults commit suicide under a therapist's care.....Just saying.

Anonymous said...

9:09
"I hope & pray you are punished to the full extent of the law & everyday & hour of your life it will haunt you"
Wow - That is a great statement to "push someone over the edge." Sounds like a former or current bullier giving advice.
I was at that service too - and no where in the service did the preacher mention for us to pray to God to haunt someone.
All I can say is - I wouldn't want YOU to talk to my kids when they mess up - not at all.

Anonymous said...

Father please forgive them, even the posters who do not know you.

Anonymous said...

10:00 - The best point you made was that you are not from Alvord, therefore you do not know what you are talking about. I'm glad you made that point clear.

Anonymous said...

Because if you were you would know everything. Because so many people knew what was going on but sad thing is no one wants to step up until something bad happens so you all are at fault.

Anonymous said...

Rest in Peace, Cheyanne! No matter the issue, you were a sweet innocent child and spirit in this world.

Anonymous said...

I'm a parent of a 14 yr old child, and I swear to GOD,who IS real, tht if I ever heard a coach or parent belittle my baby, they have more to worry abt then their conscience! I'm a fighting momma and you mess with my kids, alls I can say is may GOD have mercy on YOUR soul! Absolutely pathetic!

Anonymous said...

I hope that those sweet caring "parents" in Alvord that helped in "raising" this young girl, leave all the other children in Alvord alone, and I pray that their own children do not choose the road that Cheyanne chose to get away from them. 9:58 if you live in Alvord, and you don't rate of there with those who believe they are better than you, you can bet your children are getting bullied. And did you notice that Coach Ennis is the only coach in the county complaining that he can't have 2 a days like he wants? I think that maybe Curtis should have to run the drills with these kids and see if he can hold up???

Anonymous said...

9:58
Give it a break - Cheyanne's family is so weary of all this drama surrounding their daughter's death. They know what DID and DID NOT take place and they are not out pointing fingers and making accusations - they are just trying to make it out of bed in the morning. Only God knows why Cheyanne chose to end her life. It was not one thing that pushed her over the edge - If you knew Cheyanne, you would know that. And if you knew Cheyanne, you would also know that the last thing she would want is for someone to accuse people she considered her friends of such things. In fact, she would be the first to get in your face and set you straight. So please - for her family - stop the drama! Celebrate her life, learn from ALL the mistakes that were made. Live, Laugh, and by all means - LOVE! Love you CHEY!

Anonymous said...

I'm 9:58, no I don't live in alvord my family does in fact Aisha was my cousin so I know the difficulty of losing someone so young, but doesn't change the fact that if my child was being bullied I'd be up at the school! An doesn't change the fact tht I would not permit them to hang with these so called friends! I'm not pointing fingers at anyone but those that brought this girls self esteem to an all time low that she felt the need to end her life!

Anonymous said...

9:58
I am sorry for the loss of Aisha -we loved her and miss her every day.
All I'm saying is that you do not know the facts and yet you are assuming what you have heard is true. You are basing your post on what you have heard, not what you know. The point is that by posting based on rumors and not facts, you are hurting more kids and Cheyanne's family. Think about how Aisha's family felt when people started saying things about her wreck - I know I heard four different stories before the facts actually came to light - All the while, I'm sure Aisha's family just wanted people to leave them alone to grieve in peace. That is all I am requesting - back off, let them grieve and let the facts come to light. They will. They always do. Do soemthing to help the situation instead of making it worse.

Anonymous said...

3:29 What are the facts, you seem to think that everyone else is just speaking out the wrong side of thier mouths. State those facts Sista! Set the rumours straight!!! Are the only person close to Chey are her family?

Anonymous said...

Why would anyone add to the family's pain by posting thier daughter's business on a blog that is known for allowing people to bash and trash without accountability. The family and those closest to Cheyenne know most of the facts - and that is all that is important. And only God knows why she made that final fatal decision. The "blog public" is not on a need to know basis. But if you just have to know the facts so that you can sleep at night after posting such junk, have the guts to ask her mom, face to face, without hiding behind Anonymous.

Anonymous said...

Obviously, Cheyanne took it as more than "help". I have seen all 4 of these women and saw them at the benefit working as if they had no part in her death. I guess if my words had caused a child to take her life I would do whatever necessary to make myself feel better too. Sad thing is, these girls and their parent will never pay for what they have done.

Anonymous said...

5:04 - You obviously have not talked to "these women" or Cheyanne's mom. Nor have you bothered to check into the investigation which found no evidence of "bullying" from these people you are pointing your finger at. Yet, you post as though you know what you are talking about and don't see that what you are doing would be considered bullying to these kids and their parents. To add to your rumor -filled gossip sheet, you attend a function that is meant to help heal a community and help a family and all you walk away with is more uneducated accusations? WOW - how sad! That says more about you then what you probably wanted to expose. Please seek help - sounds like you really need it.

Anonymous said...

1:15 must me a sweeper or a rug holder

Anonymous said...

No, 3:12 - I'm just a person that finds out all the facts before going off half cocked on Facebook and this blog with lies and rumors. So, the only dirt that needs to be swept up around here are the words that come out of your mouth.