. . . that this appeared alongside a senior's photo in this week's graduation edition of a paper from the South side of the county. (Yep, there is a paper down there.)
Nice try there, Scooter. But you're still not going to Cancun for graduation! Down there, they treat you as an adult regardless of your age...or nationality
Typical teen think; "Adults have to earn respect but need to give teens what teens want and teens will prove they deserve what they demand." It never occurs to teens that they have to first act like adults, by consistently making responsible choices and accepting responsibly by solely dealing with the consequences for their actions, to earn the right to be treated like adults. It amazes me how many teens live in homes, eat food, drive cars and have nifty gadgets provided by their parents but proclaim they are "adults." Let a teen get a job, 100% support themselves and clean up their own screw ups and then we will talk about a teen being an adult.
Ask any, intelligent/successful, 35+ year old and they will tell you, they were about a 10th as smart as they thought they were when they were teens/20somethings and would love, now, to actually be 1/2 as smart as they thought they were when they were know-it-all teens/20somethings.
For once I agree with mzchief. Teens should not expect to be treated like adults. They should earn that treatment by acting like adults first and then the respect will be given.
The teen who made that statement is still a child and from the sound of his/her attitude regarding respect, still deserves to be treated as a child.
I don't know where this sense of entitlement that teenagers have today comes from. I'm only 31 and I don't recall feeling that adults owed me respect without me earning it 15 years ago. My parents taught me better.
In other words, "let us do whatever we want", or "I'm tired of not getting my way". Most adults, by the way, love NOTHING MORE than when we find opportunities to treat teenagers with respect.
I notice he did not indicate a desire to pay his own way in rent, car, gas, food, insurance, clothing, electricity, taxes, etc. like a respected adult does.
To Liz... Perhaps it is youth or ADD that causes you to have a short attention span and prevented you from finishing/understanding the rest of the sentence. "...they have to first act like adults, by consistently making responsible choices and accepting responsibly by solely dealing with the consequences for their actions, to earn the right to be treated like adults."
As for Mark Souder, he was adult enough to make the decisions that enabled him to attend and graduate Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne and the University of Notre Dame. Mark Souder made the appropriate choices that enabled him to become a small business owner and a member of the U.S. House of Representatives for 15 years. Mark Souder, unlike Bill Clinton, acted like an adult and took responsibility for his egregiously wrong decision to have a sexual relationship with a member of his staff and resign as a member of the U.S. House of Representatives. A successful person having moral standards and falling short of those standards and suffering the consequences for falling short of those moral standards does not make a person a hypocrite, it makes them an adult who made a WRONG personal choice who is paying the price for their irresponsible behaviour.
Usually the ones going around demanding "respect" are ones who don't seem to have the time or patience to earn it. I do know some kids who have made about 10 or 20 bad decisions in their lives, then make one good one and go around crowing about how the one good move "demands respect", and they seem pissed off that an adult will not instantly forget all the troubles of those other actions. I know a lot of high school kids who are respected by adults and treated like young adults...but those kids never seem to go around asking or demanding respect. They just get it.
Just like trust--you have to EARN respect before you are "entitled" to get it. Nobody is ENTITLED to either without the actions to prove it. Another example of childish (non-adult), shallow thinking.
She must have received a low grade in a class. I am sure she earned that. She sounds like a sour kid. She will have her eyes opened real soon as she enters the real world. There are 35+ people that I do nt respect or treat as adults. And there are 16 year olds that I respect and will treat them as an adult. Grow up baby!
Completely off topic.... Did anyone see the big guy wearing a kilt at Dairy Queen in Decatur last night. I was there but had no camera, you could have heard a pin drop when he walked in.
I think its funny how the youth of today have a false sense of entitlement. They must respect their elders and prove themselves worthy of respect. from what i can see its going to be hard for any of them to land a job with one hand in their pocket and the other holding their phone. Get a grip youth of today! yall have a lot to learn about reality that they are not teaching in school.
The youth of today is probably not really much different than you were when you were that age, the toys are just more advanced. Are you all telling me you didn't have some "punk" attitudes at all when you were 15? Yeah...right!
This is mind boggling. I may be missing something here, but I think the guy is on the right track. Treat teens with respect and they will give you back respect. RESPECT is the key word here and it is a mutual thing.
I have two grown children in their 20's and we always treated them with a great deal of respect - from childhood on. They knew who their parents were and gave us respect, not because we demanded it with negativity, but by earning it and respecting and loving them unconditionally. We trusted them and they proved they were trustworthy by giving them age appropriate responsibilities.
Their feelings, opinions, and such mattered and were validated even though there were times when things didn't go their way. They learned strong work ethics in school and at work. We were definitely the parents, but they were always valued and treated with love and respect.
After working in a high school for a few years, I found that when you do treat kids with respect and treat them as an adult instead of as a small child, they tend to listen more, work harder, and appreciate and value your opinions and not want to disappoint. They just want their voice to be heard and to matter - just like we, as adults do.
There is a study out there that took identical twins and put them in two different homes. One went to loving parents as an only child. The other went to a family of seven as the middle child. The one who went to the family and became the middle child was more respectful and loving than the one who grew up alone with respectful parents. Why? The one who lived with adults only knew how to respect adults, but did not know how to earn respect from his peers. The middle child learned that you must give to receive. Sorry - I agree with the kid. Some adults are too quick to belittle and disrespect a child because they know they can. (Several teachers come to mind) Nine times out of ten, if you follow the golden rule - you get what you deserve.
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Damn straight!
Nice try there, Scooter. But you're still not going to Cancun for graduation! Down there, they treat you as an adult regardless of your age...or nationality
I've been a Youth Pastor for 10 years.
This statement is what is called a "load of crap."
Typical teen think; "Adults have to earn respect but need to give teens what teens want and teens will prove they deserve what they demand." It never occurs to teens that they have to first act like adults, by consistently making responsible choices and accepting responsibly by solely dealing with the consequences for their actions, to earn the right to be treated like adults. It amazes me how many teens live in homes, eat food, drive cars and have nifty gadgets provided by their parents but proclaim they are "adults." Let a teen get a job, 100% support themselves and clean up their own screw ups and then we will talk about a teen being an adult.
Ask any, intelligent/successful, 35+ year old and they will tell you, they were about a 10th as smart as they thought they were when they were teens/20somethings and would love, now, to actually be 1/2 as smart as they thought they were when they were know-it-all teens/20somethings.
For once I agree with mzchief. Teens should not expect to be treated like adults. They should earn that treatment by acting like adults first and then the respect will be given.
The teen who made that statement is still a child and from the sound of his/her attitude regarding respect, still deserves to be treated as a child.
I don't know where this sense of entitlement that teenagers have today comes from. I'm only 31 and I don't recall feeling that adults owed me respect without me earning it 15 years ago. My parents taught me better.
If the teen I have been raising for the last 3 years (has a useless Mama) thinks this.. she'll be getting slapped soon. =) Jus sayin.
In other words, "let us do whatever we want", or "I'm tired of not getting my way". Most adults, by the way, love NOTHING MORE than when we find opportunities to treat teenagers with respect.
I notice he did not indicate a desire to pay his own way in rent, car, gas, food, insurance, clothing, electricity, taxes, etc. like a respected adult does.
"Act like an adult you say"
Depends on the adult........
Think Mark Souder and another recent hypocrite George Rueters.
( or whatever his name is)
To Liz...
Perhaps it is youth or ADD that causes you to have a short attention span and prevented you from finishing/understanding the rest of the sentence. "...they have to first act like adults, by consistently making responsible choices and accepting responsibly by solely dealing with the consequences for their actions, to earn the right to be treated like adults."
As for Mark Souder, he was adult enough to make the decisions that enabled him to attend and graduate Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne and the University of Notre Dame. Mark Souder made the appropriate choices that enabled him to become a small business owner and a member of the U.S. House of Representatives for 15 years. Mark Souder, unlike Bill Clinton, acted like an adult and took responsibility for his egregiously wrong decision to have a sexual relationship with a member of his staff and resign as a member of the U.S. House of Representatives. A successful person having moral standards and falling short of those standards and suffering the consequences for falling short of those moral standards does not make a person a hypocrite, it makes them an adult who made a WRONG personal choice who is paying the price for their irresponsible behaviour.
I am not familiar with George Rueters.
Usually the ones going around demanding "respect" are ones who don't seem to have the time or patience to earn it. I do know some kids who have made about 10 or 20 bad decisions in their lives, then make one good one and go around crowing about how the one good move "demands respect", and they seem pissed off that an adult will not instantly forget all the troubles of those other actions. I know a lot of high school kids who are respected by adults and treated like young adults...but those kids never seem to go around asking or demanding respect. They just get it.
"Adults have to respect before being respected."
What a load of $%it!!
Teens have to respect before being respected, how about that?
Just like trust--you have to EARN respect before you are "entitled" to get it. Nobody is ENTITLED to either without the actions to prove it. Another example of childish (non-adult), shallow thinking.
Barry, do you have any kids?
To Mzchief
I wasn't sure about the other hypocrites name .....It is George Rekers I believe.
MzChief,
Is that fuzzy math?
Gary the Graboid
She must have received a low grade in a class. I am sure she earned that. She sounds like a sour kid. She will have her eyes opened real soon as she enters the real world. There are 35+ people that I do nt respect or treat as adults. And there are 16 year olds that I respect and will treat them as an adult. Grow up baby!
Completely off topic.... Did anyone see the big guy wearing a kilt at Dairy Queen in Decatur last night. I was there but had no camera, you could have heard a pin drop when he walked in.
I think its funny how the youth of today have a false sense of entitlement. They must respect their elders and prove themselves worthy of respect. from what i can see its going to be hard for any of them to land a job with one hand in their pocket and the other holding their phone. Get a grip youth of today! yall have a lot to learn about reality that they are not teaching in school.
The youth of today is probably not really much different than you were when you were that age, the toys are just more advanced. Are you all telling me you didn't have some "punk" attitudes at all when you were 15? Yeah...right!
Consider the source folks. Lighten up!
This is mind boggling. I may be missing something here, but I think the guy is on the right track. Treat teens with respect and they will give you back respect. RESPECT is the key word here and it is a mutual thing.
I have two grown children in their 20's and we always treated them with a great deal of respect - from childhood on. They knew who their parents were and gave us respect, not because we demanded it with negativity, but by earning it and respecting and loving them unconditionally. We trusted them and they proved they were trustworthy by giving them age appropriate responsibilities.
Their feelings, opinions, and such mattered and were validated even though there were times when things didn't go their way. They learned strong work ethics in school and at work. We were definitely the parents, but they were always valued and treated with love and respect.
After working in a high school for a few years, I found that when you do treat kids with respect and treat them as an adult instead of as a small child, they tend to listen more, work harder, and appreciate and value your opinions and not want to disappoint. They just want their voice to be heard and to matter - just like we, as adults do.
There is a study out there that took identical twins and put them in two different homes. One went to loving parents as an only child. The other went to a family of seven as the middle child.
The one who went to the family and became the middle child was more respectful and loving than the one who grew up alone with respectful parents. Why?
The one who lived with adults only knew how to respect adults, but did not know how to earn respect from his peers. The middle child learned that you must give to receive.
Sorry - I agree with the kid.
Some adults are too quick to belittle and disrespect a child because they know they can. (Several teachers come to mind) Nine times out of ten, if you follow the golden rule - you get what you deserve.
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