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6.14.2006

Father's Day Thought

In Time magazine this week there is an article called "Does Fatherhood Make You Happy?" The author points out that our "memory" will seize on our most "powerful" images. He explains that a guy can sit through an 8 inning boring baseball game but if it ends with a home run in the bottom of the ninth, a glorious memory has been created and the boring eight innings are forgotten. And then he says this: "The . . . moment when our 3-year-old looks up from the mess she is making with her mashed potatoes and says, 'I wub you, daddy,' can erase eight hours of no, not yet, not now and stop asking. Children may not make us happy very often, but when they do, the happiness is . . . both transcendent [above and beyond the ordinary] and amnesic [allowing us to forgot the bad stuff]."

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wanna make a baby Barry? ;>

Anonymous said...

Anon 11:06, he doesn't. Don't you know why?

Anonymous said...

No, why? Please tell.

Anonymous said...

I do believe we are all waiting for this explanation.
Ohhh the possibilities.......

Anonymous said...

My defining kid moment was when my first daughter was born. For the eighth month on, I would talk to her in my wife's stomach and say "Kailey, daddy loves you..."

When she was born (yes I was there and no I didn't pass out!), they put her on the "air hockey table" (whatever it's called, I dunno). Anyway, she was crying loudly and not very happy. I walked over, leaned over to her and said "Kailey, daddy loves you" and IMMEDIATELY she stretched her arms toward my voice, trying to reach me.

Man, you talk about hooked for life... wrapped around her finger... and PROUDLY so...

Anonymous said...

1:33

That was so sweet. She is a very lucky girl to have you as a dad. Wouldn't be great if every child had a father like you. The world would be a different place.

Anonymous said...

Anon 3:01 p.m.:

That was very nice of you to say. Unfortunately, my wife and I are separated, so I don't get to live with my daughter (or the other two kids, albeit they are my stepchildren, but I love them a lot anyway :))... however, she stays with me on occasion, and I take them to school just about every morning, so I get to see them. The kids and I also go to the same church, so that helps a lot.

I wasn't living a Godly life when we were married, but I turned my life back over to the Lord on Christmas night in my little apartment. The first thing I did was to call my wife and apologize for not being a good husband (although outside the Christian life I did the best I could).

nowadays I'm happy, although Father's day may be a little strange. My wife and I have a good relationship, but I don't know how she will want her new live-in boyfriend to be treated on Father's day, so I'm not making any sort of scene or expecting anything. If I talk to the kids and they tell me they love me, that's enough.

Anyway, thanks for your kind words, and if you're a Christian, pray for me, please. :)

God bless you.

Anonymous said...

High ground is always the best ground in a divorce situation. Reason is your kids grow up and then make their own choices. Tough when they are little to take the high ground sometimes, but it pays off major in the end. And a breath of caution to all the new mommies and daddies that are still wrapped around the fingers of their little ones. The kinds of kids you will have when they are 13,16,20....depends on how they are brought up when they are 3,6,9 etc. If they get everything they want; you've got trouble coming. If they are not confident in social situations because they are overprotected, you've got trouble coming. If you're a daddy who is not part of his daughter's life, you've got BIG trouble coming. And dad, when your daughter hits that 15,16 time frame, don't feel too bad when you suddenly go from being the king to someone not worthy of cleaning the stable. That's kind of normal and will come back around to you after a while. Resist the temptation to fight it out during that time. Trust and verify...pick your battles...always be there, but don't be a bear.