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6.05.2009

FromThe Ol' Email Bag

Barry, I have an issue I need some info on. I know this is not Ann Landers, but, there is a very large, diverse and educated group of readers out there. This issue is about to split our home and my possible “next ex” is prepared to move out to prove her point.

Here’s the issue that I’d be interested in getting response about:

I have a sixteen year old step daughter. She is a very good kid and trusted completely. Her mother feels it’s okay for the step daughter have her boyfriend come over . . . at any time, go to our step daughters bedroom, go in, hop in bed and watch T.V. with the door closed until he’s ready to go home.

1. I am against him going into her room and closing the door. No matter how much she is trusted, it’s not appropriate.

2. I have set time limits as to how long he can stay....10 P.M. Sun. thru Thurs. nights....11 P.M. Fri. and Sat.

3. I require he knock on the door of my home before he just walks in unannounced like he lived there.

I have been told my ideas of today’s kids are different than her and that I need to come to today’s way of thinking. My wife is planning on moving out unless I “compromise”.

Opinions?

115 comments:

Anonymous said...

Feel free to compromise your values. That way you have integrity and respect...

I think it is completely inappropriate and the day you start letting children think that they don't have to have discretion regarding even the appearance of the possibility of naughtiness then you have lost and so have they.

Anonymous said...

Stick to your values!

Anonymous said...

You are 100% correct.

Anonymous said...

Your rules are sane and respectful.

Good for you!

Anonymous said...

Been there you said step daughter you can try all you want and you should but remember mommy will have the last word so you will have to be very carefull.Just try to help dont push it, because it might get worse, point her in right direction and hope for the best and in the end she might just thank you but let mommy deal with it or else.

Anonymous said...

WE all have different values, but if you believe your step daughter should not be having sex, then you are the right one. No way 2 teenagers are in a bedroom together, door closed without having sex. Even if they wanted to abstain, Nature and Hormones won't let them.

And allowing someone to come in your house anytime unannounced without so much as a knock?
I could not compromise on any of this - This just sounds bizarre.

Your wife is letting her daughter run the house - that's not doing her daughter any favors.

Anonymous said...

You are the man of the house and what you are saying seems like you want to show your stepdaughter that you care and want to show her how to respect you and herself.And if a little issue like this would prompt your wife to leave I think there are larger underlying problems that probably need to be addresed.


Not Dr.Phill

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Anonymous said...

Your wife is more concerned about her daughter being popular....I honestly believe kids need and want limits. I was a "mean" parent too....daughter now 22, honor graduate of college and she thanks me for setting limits! Your few requests are not strict by any means....just respectful.

Anonymous said...

I totally agree that it is inappropriate I don't care if the daughter is a good kid or not. Can we say Hormones!!! Things happen. You will be taking care of a new baby before long if you let your daughter continue this behavior. I am a mother that has raised children.

Anonymous said...

For the record, I am a fairly young female, open-minded, and have a VERY good grasp of how teens think theses day. With that being said....

Sir, I agree with you. All you are asking for is a little common respect and courtesy in your home and there is nothing "different about today's way of thinking" about that!

It is more that reasonable to ask the bedroom door be kept open, the visiting hour times be followed, and the knocking on door - uh YES - the boyfriend doesn't live there!

Don't compromise. I know she is not your child, but if it's your house then it your household rules. If your wife is threatening to move out over that....let her. Then she can have her own "rules" for her 16 year old.

Anonymous said...

Ok, marriage is a compromise. Compromise by definition is a settlement of differences by mutual concessions. What is her concession? When I was growing up, my boyfriends could come over and watch TV on the couch in the living room. Today's thinking about Kids is different, but that doesn't mean it has the be the right way or the only way. If she truly wants to compromise, there should be conversations about flexible times or leaving the door open, not threats to move out?

Anonymous said...

You don't even know you have already lost.

Call her bluff, let Mama go.

If she wants to be an irresponsible parent and raise an individual without a moral compass to prepare the young lady properly for the future, then you need to face it buddy. What is ever wrong with requiring children to respect an adults rules on how to be a respectable person.

As a old jughead, I would expect the young man is telling all his buddies all the sports highlights anyway. She will soon be an adult and can do what ever she wants.

A nice tat is coming next.

Anonymous said...

Your wife doesn't respect you, or care about you enough to stick around for wanting her daughter to not behave like a floozy? And you need opinions? 'Today's way of thinking'? Honestly?! That's what's wrong with kids today. GOOD GRIEF.

Anonymous said...

I would bet that there are alot of "trusted" teen girls that end up in "trouble".

Anonymous said...

He should probably just hand his daughter's boyfriend a condom when he walks in the door.

Chris said...

Personally, I find it extremely petty and junior high that a married adult parent would demand a compromise to get their way.

On the daughter issue, never drop your expectations of your children, that is failing them.

Good luck,
Chris
MN

Anonymous said...

I don't think you are wrong. However, you may wish to look at how you are delivering your "limits". Sometimes, it's not what being said, but how it's being said that becomes the sticking point.

I'm the mother of a 26 year old and the issue that I saw a lot around me was a lot of parents, dads included, who wanted to be the "cool" parent, who wanted to be their kid's friend. Young people at that age need a parent; they have plenty of friends.

I also had a step-parent situation going and it is tough - and I was the mom, not the step-mom.

Good luck. And get some pro-coaching if necessary.

Roxie

And Barry, is this some sort of joke?

double fake Ann Landers

Denney Crane said...

I don't think your boundaries are out of line. If it's half your house, you should have a say in who walks in unannounced.

I highly recommend you put your step daughter on the pill... ASAP! Sex is a natural act, especially for 16 year olds.

Anonymous said...

Stand your ground because there is more going on in there than watching TV.

wordkyle said...

IMHO, there need to be at least some limits set for your stepdaughter. That concept is called "parenting." From the information provided, your wife seems pretty uncompromising. She seems to define the term as you giving in. If she is threatening your relationship over this issue, then it's not the only issue. Seek counseling.

Anita said...

My thoughts are that there needs to be compromise on both parts.
1) It's both your homes so there should be house rules such as curfew times, knocking before entering, etc. This is basic rules and respect.
2) As far as the rules about the step-daughter I believe you should be able to voice your concern to her mother. However, ultimately she is her mother and you are a step-father. As much as you might dislike it, if she feels it is acceptable for her daughter to be in a closed bedroom, lay in the bed to watch tv, etc, then unfortunately you don't really have much say in the matter.
3)Your wife needs to understand that this is out of concern for the daughter, her reputation, security, etc. If she cares she will consider your opinion, but may not take all of your advice.
4) I wish you both the best and pray that this does not tear apart your marriage. Remember, the children will grow and move out. I'd seek counseling before allowing this to tear apart my marriage.

Best of Luck!

Anonymous said...

It sounds like the mom in this case has lost sight of the fact that it's parents that set parameters in a household, not societal acceptances. Also, she's treading dangerous territory attempting to gain approval through allowing this to go on. I've seen moms/daughters that attempt to be friends when the daughter is 15-18. The mom ends up looking ridiculous and the teen looks ridiculous. If you're a parent, be a parent.

I agree you should seek counseling. This is probably only the tip of the iceberg of issues. Or, the lady wants to leave and is looking for anything at all to use as an excuse. I feel for you dude.

Anonymous said...

I took the door off to the bedroom

that fixed that

Anonymous said...

Your decision is good and responsible parenting.

Anonymous said...

I like your values and rules, let Momma go and come on over and be my daughter's step daddy. That is the kind of man I want helping me raising my daughter.

Anonymous said...

No wonder why kids act the way kids act the way they do today. The kid is the one running the house. That's like ants getting in your house and the pest guy can't get rid of them. Your house gets taken over by KIDS. Sounds like a title to a movie.

Fast Eddie said...

If my wife told me that I would have to let some boy be in my house unannounced or she would leave, she wouldn't have to leave, I would throw her out.

Anonymous said...

Unfortunately, your stepdaughter's behavior seems to be the norm now days. I have friends who allow the teen couples to "sleep over" at each others homes, with parents home, of course. Society and morals have changed and now accepts this type of behavior. Being from the old school, I strongly agree with you and believe that anytime 2 hormonally charged teens are behind close doors you're asking for trouble. Teen relationships become too intense too quickly now days, us "old folks" know that you have to "kiss a lot of toads before you find a prince". Maybe you could come to a happy medium, door open and knocking or at least loudly announcing his entry before he enters your home. At my home, it's dangerous to walk in unannounced! There are weirdos roaming our streets and I have a gun!! You now have to decide if you want to be part of this moral decay to save your marriage or move on and possibly be faced with it later in another relationship. Good luck!!

Anonymous said...

Tell mom to be "mom" and not a "best friend". Then take the door of the hinges. That should just about do it.

Anonymous said...

Stick to your values -- let her move out. What happens when she gets pregnant "it's all his fault" I don't think so.....

STICK TO YOUR VALUES!

Anonymous said...

There is a different way of thinking about today's kids, you're wife is right about that. Mostly there is thinking it's okay to have a baby when you're 16. See Bristol Palin and Jamie Lynn Spears if you don't believe me.

Anonymous said...

Do you think she reads this blog and would appreciate the family laundry being aired on a public forum? Do you think she will appreciate being labeled an idiot irresponsible parent? Well I would think not!

Anonymous said...

Don't give in. And as she walks out the door, remind her that her new place of residence will need three bedrooms: one for her, one for her daughter, and a new nursery for the baby.

Anonymous said...

Your rules are reasonable, and its insane that your wife is threatening you about them. I feel for you--uncomfortable position.

Anonymous said...

Its not "today's kids." I am 32 years old and my parents allowed me to be with my girlfriend in a closed bedroom when I was a teenager. I didn't disrespect my parents by trying anything.

soz said...

have your step-daughter call Bristol Palin for abstinence support, then stop worrying.

Anonymous said...

I am 25 years old and I can tell you they wont just watch tv. I agree with you all the way. Unless your wife is ready to raise a grandchild she needs to listen to you.

Anonymous said...

Right isn't always easy,but it's always right.Stick to your values and moral decision,if she doesn't agree,then she is also part of the problem.Let them leave and she can tend to the soon to be made baby.

Anonymous said...

You and the Mrs. (and probably the step-daughter) should find a good counselor. You are completely correct, but they don't seem to be listening to you because you are the "man of the house" and hence a moron in their eyes. Hopefully, they WILL listen to a professional. If not, God help them. They are behaving like trailor trash.

Anonymous said...

might as well head to baby'sRus and register.. i think we all can agree thats next.

Anonymous said...

It's a step daughter, so who gives a sh**. Just make sure they all know that you are not paying for it when she turns up with a bun in the oven!

Anonymous said...

What would Sarah Palin do?

Anonymous said...

Call the mom's bluff. She's probably just as spoiled as she's making her daughter, and that is probably just one of her tactics to get her way....or just do what 7:55 said to do...it's just as effective, and totally makes the point.

Anonymous said...

Wow makes me wonder does Mommy already have her daughter on the pill? Most likely without step
Dad in the need to know. Also guessing this might be a fairly new marriage for you? Please seek some outside help!!

Anonymous said...

Been divorced twice, so probably not the best for advice, but I say that it doesn't matter how times have changed, that doesn't make the change right. I wouldn't allow that either, step kid or biological one. It's your house. I say, if she wants to move out, more power to her. Living alone without strife is FAR preferable to being married and living in a battle zone...take it from one who's been there and is now in absolute heaven alone. Best time of my life and I'll never go back. A marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be.

KC said...

I was 15 once, TRUST ME they are not just "watching t.v.". Stick to your guns! I would always get pissed at my Dad when I was younger for not letting my boyfriend do the same thing. I'm older now, I GET IT. Unless you and Mama want to be raising a grandchild, don't throw in the towel. As far as Mama is concerned, she needs a reality check. If she is indeed sexually active, I hope she is educated enough to use protection.

Anonymous said...

What's wrong with back seat sex like we use to do it? Since it only takes about 10 seconds to finish the hideous act at that age there's no need to try it in the house.

Anonymous said...

Let mom read these blogs and maybe that will change her mind. I have a 20 year old daughter who graduated college and is now married but she was never allowed to have her boyfriend in her room with the door shut that is just insane;it sounds like your wife wants to be a grandmother. MOM NEEDS TO WAKE UP!

Anonymous said...

I'm thinking that unless the door is locked, the teens wouldn't get nekid..they will find a place if that's what they want to do. Having said that, the real issue here is the lack of respect for you and your home. It is not her house, therefor she doesn't make the rules. Kids will usually push for as much freedom as they can get. It's our job as parents to set the boundries that they, hopefully will appreciate someday. Your wife should be thankful that you care enough for her daughter to set such limits. Very reasonable limits I would say.

Anonymous said...

The first 6:48 is skewed. Stick to your guns.

Anonymous said...

let the ho go...

Anonymous said...

You know at age 16 that would have been sooooo cool if my girlfreinds parents or my parents were like that. 12 years later I am sooooo glad they wern't. How can parents not have more respect for themselves to let this happen. I have 2 young girls, no way I will be in this situation in my home!

HHL said...

1. Your rules are reasonable. You should enforce them.

2. Your wife's threats and brinksmanship on this issue show that she is not committed to your marriage.

3. You will not be able to prevent this teenage couple from having sex. If they don't do it at your house, they'll do it somewhere else.

Anonymous said...

Here are some words that I hope comfort you as much as they have me.

If you love something,let it go and if it doesn't return,track it down and kill it.

Thanks

Casual Observer said...

Fact #1: All teens are liars and sneaks.
Fact #2: Fact #1 never changes!

Anonymous said...

start calling her grandma.. see if she likes it..
if you have no say since you are a step-dad, what does her real dad say?? he can not be happy about this..
yeah i agree.. call her bluff.. if you give in, then she will just threaten to leave over something else.. like when you will not buy the car she thinks her daughter should have..

Anonymous said...

My BF wasn't allowed in my bedroom at all!

You're right, they should repect those rules (won't stop the inevitable, but you do what you can!), it's your house. When a parent starts buying into "it's different today" they stop being a parent and try to be a friend. We all know how that works.

Although I am confused over a 16 y.o. wanting to be in the house....good grief, I never wanted to be home.

Anonymous said...

If the mom is threatening to move out over your good fatherhood, then there are other issues than just the daughter. Good luck.

P.S. I was the boyfriend 25 yrs ago, and she was the daughter being trusted. Well guess what happened behind closed doors?
My mistake and lessoned learned.

signed the past ex boyfriend to a trusted young girl.l

Anonymous said...

Uh, dude wake up....
1. They have already slept together.
2. Bet 100 dollars against the hole in a donut that your wife has slept around.
3. Call the girl's real father. That will get the party started.

You need to drop back 12 and punt this bitch.

Double Fake Dr. Phil.

wordkyle said...

As for the "they're gonna do it anyway" argument - there is a difference between acknowledging that point and giving your approval. Providing the time, place and opportunity seems a bit...encouraging.

soz said...

barry, didn't you recently post something about hearing an attorney use the words "glove" and "love" in the courtroom? perhaps he may be able to offer some sage advice here, too...

Anonymous said...

I agree that the kids will still have the sex. The issue is you shouldn't condone it in YOUR home. I know my now-grown kids did stuff in other places, but not in my home. That just shows disrespect. I recommend ditching both the step kid and the wife. Not worth it. Life's too short.

Anonymous said...

maybe you should encourage just oral sex only until they are married..i heard somewhere that oral sex is not really sex and no one can get pregnant. it's almost like kissing, ain't it..???

Xanthippas said...

I know this is not Ann Landers, but, there is a very large, diverse and educated group of readers out there.

Does he read the comments here?

Anyway I'm a flaming libtard and I don't have a problem with these rules. I have a daughter and she'll NEVER have a boy over with some supervision of some kind. And he'll knock first, call me sir, keep his damn feet off the coffee table and all those other things young gentlemen should still be doing these days.

Anonymous said...

Wonder what married children would think if a divorced or widowed parent came into their home with a friend of the opposite sex and wanted to "hang out" in one of their spare bedrooms?

Woo hoo.

Jarhead said...

Always make it a point to be cleaning your guns when the punk-ass BF comes over.

Anonymous said...

Ditto, Xan

Anonymous said...

My BFs parents would let us in his room with the door shut my parents wouldnt thats why we were always at his house

Guess what happened...I got pregnant that one time he did not use protection!!!

SO unless your ok with that and/or you keep a full box of condoms next to your daughters bed
DO NOT LET THEM CLOSE THE DOOR-just a note though they will find somewhere else to go...if theres a will theres a way!!

Anonymous said...

"they're gonna do it anyway". are you from chico ??

Anonymous said...

MZCHIEF, I have never agreed with you until today's post. I found myself thinking, you're not that bad, then you go and add they P.S. so you can make sure you're talking about yourself, and I remember, on yea, I still hate your guts!

mzchief said...

To anonymous 11:03...

Just a wee life lesson for you.
.

Hatred of someone is born from the person doing something to you or the fear of something they might do to you.
.

Jealousy of someone is born from the fear that the person has something you will never have.
.

Pettiness directed at someone is born from the fear the person has something you may never have.
.

Since I have never done anything to you and will never have the chance to do anything to you, you do not hate me. However, based on your attitude toward people who have succeed at life, you are JEALOUS of me because you WILL NEVER have or achieve the things I have.
.

Still Sucks To Be You.
.

If you want it to suck less to be you, get over me being me and get on with you being you.

RPM said...

I was in the same scenario a few years ago. I objected but Mom overruled. That arguement eventually broke up our marriage.

Stepdaughter wound up giving birth to a string of kids all by different babydaddys. But hey, Mom won!

Stand your ground or DTB.

mzchief said...

To RPM...
Honestly, I feel soooo cool because I know the meaning of your "DTB" acronym. Usually, I do not catch those things.
*;)

Anonymous said...

ITA with MzChief, she said what I was thinking. However she said it much better than I could have.

Anonymous said...

to 8:28
if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and talks like a duck...................

Silicone Alley said...

I was a very good and trusted kid growing up until about 16. If my mom wasn't threatening my ass with my life, car, or weekends I would have turned up pregnant at 17 while high on dope. I pushed the limits everyday and did tons of things I shouldn't have but was always scared of going too far because I didn't want my mom to "kill me". I thank her now for being a parent and not my friend.

Yes, today's idea on kids are different from even when I was a kid. But not for the better, most kids are to busy with their MySpace, cell phone, and IPods to grow up and realize that their are consequences in life.

Marriage is about compromise. Let her boyfriend in the bedroom but leave the door open. A curfew is a good thing, yall should talk about what hours work best for both of you. And out of respect for the entire family, have him knock on the door before entering.

If she is threatening to leave over this issue, she might have other things bothering her as well and is using this as an excuse out.

Anonymous said...

My advice? Ditch the spouse and the kid and get a dog. I've found they're much less trouble, happier to see you, and not near as costly.

Anonymous said...

put your wife & dog both in the trunk of your car. ride around for 1 hr. drinking beer. open the trunk lid & see which one happiest to see you.(keep the dog)

Anonymous said...

Agree that you have already lost.

Agree you should take the door off of her bedroom. She can still have her privacy in her bathroom.

It might be a good time to start trying to meet one of the "random thought of the day" girls.

President Clark said...

Her rules are probably why kids are the way they are today. They seem to have very little respect for authority. The rules you set forth are very reasonable. However it is her daughter. Is it worth losing your wife over? I suppose she could ask the same question of herself.

Jason

Anonymous said...

Oddly enough, the daughter isn't complaining. I'm sure she's not happy with the time limits, but, it's the Mom who is throwing the S*** fit over the whole thing. And it has nothing to do with her at all aside from the fact...she just doesn't like it.
As far as her being a good woman and spouse, I couldn't ask for anything better. She just has different ideas about certain issues. It has to be her way or it's wrong. She isby NO standards an irresponsible parent. She is , as someone said, trying to be a better friend to her daughter than a parent. And it will hurt them both. As a rule, whatever the daughter wants,she gets. She is an awesome kid and I trust her completely about not having sex. I think she is smarter than that. I just personally feel it's inappropriate behavior. But, I have no say so in the matter. It's her daughter.
I do, however, have a say as to who comes into my home, when they come in and what time they will leave.

Anonymous said...

mz..i wonder if you know what SFC is..?

Anonymous said...

She and her daughter sound like a couple of worthless ho's I say get out while you can she or that brat ain't worth it.

mzchief said...

To anonymous 4:13...
Most intelligent people are aware that SFC is an acronym for Space Flight Center at NASA but I am certain you, being you, have taken the time to apply your own meaning.

Rather than showing your lack of character and pitiable nature you really should get over me being me and get on with YOU being a better YOU!

There is such a thing as Karma which very well could explain why my life is truly blessed and the fact Karma is a bitch when you are a jerk could be one of the reasons it sucks to be you.

You truly are pathetic and seeming are unaware of just how pathetic.

Anonymous said...

well there's no doubt that you do know exactly what it means..ha ha ha !!

mzchief said...

To anonymous 5:13...
In all honesty, I have no clue what meaning YOU have attached to the acronym SFC.

Anonymous said...

Bugsy's blog's-a-buzzin' on this one.

Not sure if this is purely hypothetical, but if it's an authentic situation, I'd say the die is cast. There's probably more to it - I'd say the wife is spoiling to leave, knows the husband will stand on principle.

The tough thing is, he may never know what the real issue is. Over two years after my wife decided to opt out, I still don't know what her real motivations were, probably never will. Frustrating, and depressing.

I'm all for counseling, but both parties have to have 'buy-in' - otherwise it's a jerk-off.

But, I wouldn't recommend caving in on the BF issue. My sense tells me that a mom who defends her teen daughter's whoring probably isn't too averse to extracurricular activities herself, so keeping such a spouse would only be a Pyrrhic victory.

Bummer, dude.

Anonymous said...

Give in. Then your step-daughter can repeat the same process when her daughter's step-father puts his foot down on her boyfriend. See a pattern here?

Mike said...

I say Adios Mamacita

Anonymous said...

clue: S=Stupid F C.

Anonymous said...

For everything below, I'll substitute my own reason for why, as Husband stated, "No matter how much she is trusted, it’s not appropriate."

Husband may have his own, different reason, and he can use that instead when discussing it with his family unit. But this is how I think about it:

The main problem isn't that they'll have sex in the room. Surely, the wife's argument is NOT that they should close the door to have sex. She must be saying there are legitimate reasons why the two lovebirds would like some privacy. Perhaps she has a point, and the emotional and trust issues should be discussed openly amongst those concerned. However, the step-dad has an equally valid point that, should the need arise, he can truthfully tell other parents, the police, and whomever asks, "No, my daughter and X were never in a room alone together with the door closed as far as I know." As a property owner and responsible citizen, he has a right to protect himself against potential civil or criminal liability within his control. This might be known as a risk adverse lifestyle, and might be a good thing to teach a 16 yr old.

Because both the wife and husbands viewpoints are valid and substantial, they should be discussed and recognized as such by both parties before any meaningful discourse can begin. Then the healing can begin, everyone can have a good cry, and you can form an equitable compromise.

Does your wife buy nice shoes? If so then she understands on some level that "Appearances" do matter.

A google search for "teenager closed door" came up with this book (the link will take you to the section on closed bedroom doors):
How to stop battling with your teenager.

Also, lock your damned external doors!

epic said...

You know the answers or you wouldn't have asked for opinions. You don't need a bunch of stranges to let you know you're right.

Anonymous said...

The --nt yuu are living with has already made her mind up .She is just giving you a chance to feed them both or three or four of them for a few more years.Hope the house is yours.Believe me their is always a better ride than the one you're on.DAGO

Anonymous said...

Well.....you are all just full of opinions...and i'm sure you are ALL qualified therapists!!! And until any of you know what the situation is, there are 2 sides to every story, you are not qualified to make an opinion...first of all no one should ask advise from a bunch of Wise County Rednecks such as yourselves. If her mind was not made up before, after being called all the lovely names such as idiot irresponsible, ho, slut and my favorite CUN*!!!! Well it most likely is now. Might as well have taken out a full page add in the Messenger with pictures and all!!

mzchief said...

To anonymous 8:09...
Thank you for proving my point about you.

Anonymous said...

Buy her a bus ticket.

Anonymous said...

who cares. in a couple of years the girl will go to frat parties, get real drunk, smoke some pot and go home and have sex with multiple partners.

Man I miss college.

Denny also had a good point about putting her on the pill. Pretty simple way to avoid some serious life-altering events.

Anonymous said...

Like I tried to post earlier but got denied. Mom is probably sleeping with the BF too and doesn't want to ruin her double life conspiracy theory.

Anonymous said...

3:01.........
you're an idiot

Anonymous said...

mzchief is so predictable, isn't she? Over and over we hear from her:
1) I'm smart - very, very smart.
2) I NEED you anonymous people (that I don't care about) to know how wonderful my life is.
3) If you respond negatively to any opinion I bless you mere mortals with.......well that means you are a loser....or you want to be me.....or you are obsessed with me......or...start with #1 again and keep repeating.

It's actually pretty amusing. As smart as she claims to be, how can she not know how pitiful she looks telling us these things over and over?????

Anonymous said...

DTB & SFC Acronym, or mnemonic?

Anonymous said...

I'm a mother of 3 sons, we had rules for our boys to follow. They are now very welled mannered young men.
But at one time my oldest was dating a young girl & apparently she had NO rules. The bedroom door was to stay open at all times. If it was closed myself or my husband would go by & reopen it.Apparently she didnt like that rule. So I fixed that problem I removed the door.
My parents set rules, we set rules & now my boys are setting rules for their children. Rules are here for a reason. Stick to your guns, if your wife is going to leave you over something like the rules,the values you want to set for your step-daughter...let her go she's the one thats losing a good thing. Best of luck!

mzchief said...

To anonymous 6:01...
YOU are the one who is soooooooo pathetically predictable. I post a comment that is in response to the blog topic and SPOT ON might I add and YOU have nothing to add to the blog but your jealousy of me. Seemingly, me being me consumes your life. Me being me is such a problem for you that it leaves you absolutely incapable of adding anything of value to a discussion.

You need to get over me being me and get on with you being you if you are to have a hope in Heaven of lessening the fact it SUCKS TO BE YOU!


*StillLOL@U*

Anonymous said...

Good grief mzchief - That's your standard response to anyone that doesn't think you are as wonderful as you do.

It may have been clever once, but now it's just your old, tired, cliche' response.

We get it....no need to keep telling us that's how you think of anyone that isn't impressed with you.

Anonymous said...

mzchief 4:50 & 8:01 - same song, 500th verse -

Two times on just this chain - saying the same thing to bad ole anonymouse posters who aren't charmed by you.

mzchief said...

To anonymous 11:52/12:44...
Your tired petty commentary about me does not warrant any new advice especially when the advice of you getting over me being me and you getting on with you being you is EXCELLENT ADVICE.

The reason I will continue to repeat the same EXCELLENT ADVICE to you is because clearly, you are too eaten up by jealousy or in your own words "hate" for me to understand it the first 20 or 30 times you are told.

*StillLOL@U*

Anonymous said...

12:44 -
Make that THREE times in one comment chain.
Think she'll go for four?
I'll put out the bait -

mzchief - You don't impress; but you do make us laugh.

Signed: An anonymous poster, and loving it.

mzchief said...

To anonymous 3:59...
I knew you would be back so I have left the best for last.

Pay attention and perhaps you will learn something. I originally, merely, posted a response to the blog comment and YOU are the one who, due to your jealousy of me, turned the comments into being ALL ABOUT ME. That says more about YOU than you can EVER say about me.

You truly, need to get over me being me and get on with you being you.

*StillLOL@U*

I am done with you, for now. However, you will return so you can have the final word but remember, YOU keep coming back to talk about ME being me.

It really does SUCK TO BE YOU!

Anonymous said...

like i done said SFC SFC SFC SFC SFC.!! would ANYONE else besides mz dispute this..??? i doubt it...

wordkyle said...

1044 - I'll dispute it. Since I assume the "S" refers to stupid, you're wrong right at the beginning. Of all the attributes Mz might have, stupid is not one of them. The other words you used are not descriptive, only insults that show your frustration at her refusal to be beaten down. I think you're proving her point. Let it go.

Denney Crane said...

10:44 AM

I must agree with Wordy...

Mz may be a lot of things, but stupid is not one of them.

She's as hardheaded and stubborn as I am though...

DC

Anonymous said...

i should have known the dinosaurs would come out in support of the SFC, they don't realize we laugh at their silly dumb-asses every time they post, so please retort..!!

Anonymous said...

from now on everyone please add "SFC" to mz., so she will know that she really is an ignorant i mean stupid FC in most peoples opinion..thank you very much in advance..SMFIWC>>!!!

Anonymous said...

3:59 here -
mzchief - you saved your best for last? That's your best?

That's all you got? Nothing more than another tired version of your same old, same old????