9.07.2011

Random Wednesday Morning Thoughts



  • Well, the first Liberally Lean Girl's Softball game is in the books, and I would like to announce that I will be able to say the team led a game at one point in the season. It might have been 1-0 and we ended up losing 2-8, but we were ahead and dominating that game for about five minutes.
  • I'm not sure I've ever felt more important than walking up to home plate before the game and exchanging lineup as and meeting the umpires.
  • But, and these Random Thoughts are about to seriously change gears, I was taken aback by something I did not expect. It was the moments. Those moments during the game that lasted only a second but stuck with me for hours afterwards. The girl who was beaming and couldn't wait to tell me, "What did you think of my hit?"; the nervous player whose helmet I slapped, told her to have a "good time up there", and watched her smile she she walked to the plate; or even the coaching moment when our cut off man held up both her arms because that is what we taught her. 
  • But one of my favorite moments came when a first year player, who is a bit tall and a bit awkward, managed to get on base with  a walk and then somehow stole second. We then got bold and had her steal third, and she came in with plenty of time to do so standing up. Success! Well, almost. She and I had worked on one thing in practice: Be under control and don't step off the bag once you get there. However, she came into the bag so hard and so fast and so excited that she couldn't help step off the bag no matter how hard she tried. As she desperately tried to get her foot back on third base in a frenzied two seconds, she was tagged out as I stood three feet away yelling "Foot on the bag! Foot on the bag!". Oh, no! But she didn't kick the ground or yell or storm to the dugout. No. She looked up, slumped her shoulders, but smiled at me. And if I read that smile correctly, it said,  "I tried so hard to do what I supposed to do, and you and I have gone over this, but I want to tell you, coach, I'm really, really excited to have almost gotten to third in my first game!" 
  • A moment. 
  • And, that's what I learned. The game was a game of moments. Little, brief moments. A few little moments after hours of practice and planning which, I'll admit, have been taxing and stressful. But after one game, the coaching experience has pretty much been what a buddy of mine twenty years ago with  two small kids explained to me about parenting: "Hey, it's a beating," he said. "But it's a good beating."  I think he meant, "It's really, really hard, but there will be moments - great moments - that you wouldn't trade for anything."
  • And if I sound a little reflective this morning, it is because I am. Last night and again this morning I thought, you know, life is really hard. It really is. There are bills. There is sickness, and pain, and death. There are dreams that are dashed, relationships that fail, and mistakes and horrible choices along the way. But there are those moments -- those wonderful moments -- that happen just ever so often to make it all worth it. 
  • And that is my surprising random thought of the day -- all caused by a little girls softball team that is already meaning more to me than I mean to them. 


77 comments:

Anonymous said...

And that is why I chose coaching as a profession!!! Thanks for your insight.

Anonymous said...

We need a DO-OVER on todays random thoughts!!

Anonymous said...

Aww, I actually teared-up. You will have many more moments and I wish that more people would notice those moments like you have.

Anonymous said...

You missed it, BG. SEC voted to accept A&M. However, Baylor has rescinded its consent for A&M to go to the SEC...i.e. they are threatening to sue the SEC for interference. SEC is essentially saying that unless Baylor consents, they will not extend that invitation.

wordkyle said...

BG, your inner John Feinstein is showing.

Anonymous said...

And after one game? Welcome to parenthood! Having worked in public education for nearly 20 years, I consider all my students, former and current "my kids", so yes, parenthood is correct! I must say, your post brought a tear to my eye (and I don't do that easily)! Congrats! Keep those thougts and feelings as the season progresses. You may have already influenced one of those girls in a way she will remember for the rest of her life. Job well done!

Anonymous said...

agree with 8:38

Anonymous said...

Skippy, That sounded like a segment out of a made for TV movie on the Lifetime channel.

Anonymous said...

Wow!! I actually enjoyed reading your random thoughts this morning!

Anonymous said...

Honestly, I'm torn between enjoying your experience (one that I've enjoyed before, as well) and wanting your sarcastic, cynical look at life. I feel like this was sort of a "Liberally Lean - Behind the Curtain."

gern blansten

Anonymous said...

You made me tear up at work dang it...

I've been stressing like crazy about a job interview in an hour. Now, I just want to go grab my great moment! Thank you!

Anonymous said...

So, now you have a taste of "teaching," those "aha" moments that a keep teachers going....it isn't always about the subject or keeping parents happy, or pay, it's just knowing that somehow, you have made a moment, influenced a life. It may never be articulated, but it's deep in that child.
For all those who constantly put down educators, take a note from BG's page today. It makes it all worthwhile to get that smile.

Answers? I don't know the questions. said...

Good post, Barry. You will also find that long after you coach these kids that you will have had an influence on them. As adults, they will tell you so. Here's hoping that you realize you are influencing young people with the way you live your life including this blog.

Anonymous said...

'obama to propose $300 billion for jobs' ?
will the govt. quit spending $ we dont have?
each govt. job created will cost taxpayers $ 400,000 plus, before interest .
what have we become?
sheesh

Anonymous said...

Happened in Decateur... http://jezebel.com/5837872/mom-arrested-after-baby-laughs-too-loud-in-library

Did LL ever cover this? Curious what the real story is.

Anonymous said...

One of the hardest parts of coaching kids is to separate the kids from the parents. Don't hold against the kid what the parent does or says.

Anonymous said...

BG is an emotional cat.

TommyBoy said...

Great post, Barry!

Anonymous said...

And just think, maybe someday, if the girl plays her cards right, she could appear in a bikini on your website. Dreams do come true . . .

Denney Crane said...

Best post I ever read on this website.

Anonymous said...

I think those were some of BG's best random thoughts. The posters who didn't like it probably got teared up because they've never had "moments"

The Devil said...

Let me get this straight, you lost!!! Sugar coat it anyway you like but you failed as a coach. You need to reflect on your coaching decisions and what your team did wrong, so you can correct those mistakes. You like to relate softball and parenting, so here it goes, they both are about winning!

With your attitude you will look back one day and be happy about all the little things your kids did well, while they stick needles in their arm, and sell their bodies for the next high. Sure it is nice to have those moments, only if you have a plan to win in the end. Parenting may be a "good beating" but only if you child doesn't end up a cranked out prostitute! :-]

Anonymous said...

BG...Isn't it great to be a part of life instead of an interested observer? After a few short months of marriage, with kids in the house, you finally "get it".

Anonymous said...

Other than your "Thanksgiving Memories" post, this is by far your best post! What a tender and gentle heart you have under that crass and gruff exterior. Making a difference in a child's life is the most rewarding feeling ever, so I say good job "Coach"!

Anonymous said...

Wow, think you may have found your calling! Keep it up and this will take you into a whole new world to occupy your time. What a great hobby it could be for you.

Anonymous said...

The weenie answer to everything. Throw more money at the problem. Why doesn't he realize that cutting corporate taxes, cutting regulations and get the EPA off business's back would do more for spurring growth and have an immediate impact on creating jobs. Allowing for drilling would also create jobs. And to think that none of this would cost any money that we don't have. Those damn sons of bithches rascist Tea Party members that want the government out of our lives has a target on their backs by a president that has no clue. All Republicans should boycott his speech to Congress.

Anonymous said...

Wish all kids could catch the fever of special moments with teams and coaches...drugs could be a thing of the past. Good job my friend...continue and you will be blessed.

Doc Feelgood said...

Good one, BG.

Anonymous said...

"Life is really hard" Those hardships in the past and in our future are the inevitable storms and those "moments" are those brief, fleeting days of sunny, perfect weather. But remember, sunshine year round makes a desert.

Thank you for random thoughts about what really matters, not politics, religion, or pop culture.

Anonymous said...

9:58 - The Devil
You are an idiot!!!! Hopefully you won't have any children and the circle stops with you.

Anonymous said...

Good Post, BG. It is like you said about life....if you wade between the boobs and the liberalism....BG's few moments of clarity are pretty good.

Anonymous said...

WOW, the heart felt moments, the reaching out to youngsters and feeling that emotional touch. I feel as a person who reads the LL and feels a sense of joy, sometimes anger, but always entertainment when I bring the LL into my day that if others feel as I do, we must all chip in and get BG a really cool man-purse with the team logo on it.

Proud of you, BG!

PS, be carefull expressing your emotions around the older women folk, they are the one's who'll call and report you to crimestoppers.

Anonymous said...

Happened in Decateur... http://jezebel.com/5837872/mom-arrested-after-baby-laughs-too-loud-in-library

Did LL ever cover this? Curious what the real story is.

You do realize that is Decatur, GEORGIA right? Bet you were all ready to bash our police department weren't you? Moron.

The Devil said...

10:22...Yep, you got bit by the sarcasm monster. I have made numerous posts on here before about the over the top, win at all cost, peewee coach type. Even if you hadn't read those, the over the topness of my comment should have been a clue.

Anonymous said...

That was an awfully sweet post today BG. Now run down to Wal-Mart and get some tampons for your man-gina. You do realize the objective is to win, right?

Anonymous said...

To the losers, the moments.
To the winners, the spoils.
What? everyone gets a trophy.
Sorry, my bad.

Gary the Graboid said...

I guess the Tom Hanks line about crying in baseball doesn't apply to the coach?

When are you going to teach the Little Leaners the hidden ball trick? (That is not a double entendre'.)

SailorMoon said...

Good job. I'm all about winning but sometimes it's the small things. Thanks for bouncing that back into perspective.

Sassy 2U said...

Now, that's good stuff!

Anonymous said...

One of your bests posts for sure! And what a relief not to have to read about sports or politics, but about real life for a change.

Parenting is truly wonderful. My kids are all adults with kids of their own and are just beginning to see what no one can tell you....it's hard but it's the best, most worthwhile thing you'll ever do.

Anonymous said...

Bravo! Thanks for sharing yourself with us.

Anonymous said...

It's always a good thing to write from your heart...you did that this morning and it was great! You should do it more often....

Anonymous said...

Great post today! Don’t let the responses from the shallow thinkers discourage you. Your “heart on the sleeve” is commendable.

I’ll share with you what someone once shared with me years ago: You are planting or nurturing a seed in every kid you work with. You may never see the results of your efforts; but at some point something will bloom in that kid, and you had a part in it!

Thanks for coaching and posting…

Anonymous said...

I'm crying.
Nice post.

Kathleen... said...

Beautiful thoughts. Congratulations on experiencing the moments.

Anonymous said...

Give give give is that all the Democrats think about?

That mindset does nothing but enable the problem.

How can they be so stupid and not know this?

janneba said...

Good thoughts on todays post I sent one in already but apparently didn't go thru

Anonymous said...

How old are you? And you just now found out what is important in this life?
I'm happy for you . Some people never get to that point.

Anonymous said...

Sorry Devli, you're usually a doucheface so it's hard to tell when you're not.

Ray W said...

good thoughts today! I think thats pretty heart-warming

CT said...

Great Random Thoughts today, Barry!! I'm tearing up for sure..where are my dang kleenex?

The best moments in life are when you make a difference and can positively influence a child in these crazy, crazy times we live in. Or, maybe when you realize the child made a difference in your crazy life. Keep up the great work, Coach!!!!

BEST. RANDOM. THOUGHTS. EVER.

Anonymous said...

Perfect

Anonymous said...

It isn't always about winning, it's about doing your best. Great post today.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Barry for sharing. I loved it.

Anonymous said...

Your post today shows much more depth than I ever read on this blog....no politics, boobs, anchorwomen, or sports. Wow, you really are growing up! Kids are good for the soul.

Denney Crane said...

10:44 AM

The object of all sports, thru high school, is to build character. Believing otherwise represents a skewed perception of priorities.

Anonymous said...

I teared up when I read this. I am so happy for you Barry! You understand now why some of us are happy in our marriages of 30 years and in raising our kids to adulthood even through the harrowing teenage years. Something many people in our world miss out on. It is the moments! You can't schedule those. They just happen as you spend time sharing and doing life together. Now that you are watching for them you will see them even more. Enjoy your team and your family because you are making a difference:)

Anonymous said...

Your supposed to play to win that's why they keep score.

Anonymous said...

Boy all these post and no one said anything about the chic pic gal today. Must be a first...

Anonymous said...

Denney Crane is right.

Another poster stated that you will be surprised at the impact you can have in some girls lives.

I coached from the time they were 10 till 18u. I am shocked at the respect I have received from some of these young ladies. That is true success.

Anonymous said...

Best post ever.You touch many people. Thank you

Anonymous said...

WOW!! I fell asleep and woke up in the Lifetime Channel. Give a few liberals a sob story and they just gush all over themselves.

Touching story, move on.

Big Ed

Anonymous said...

You're going soft on us Barry Green and I love it!

Anonymous said...

Been reading this blog for several years.......best Random Thoughts I've read.

Anonymous said...

Golden post, Barry, golden post. Good work.

My Other Brother Darryl

Anonymous said...

Big Ed is a big head. That's the guy who sells us out for Russian ammo.

Gator said...

Great comments on the coaching, coach! And don't sell yourself short, you'd be surprised how much a coach means to them. I still remember my first coach Dan that taught me more about winning and losing gracefully...he taught us about life. How it's not just handed to you and how to be a team player and have your team mate's back. Those little girls are fortunate to have you as their coach.

Anonymous said...

Dude, when did you go all gayz on us?

Anonymous said...

It's just that 9/11 changed everything.

Anonymous said...

Welcome to Life.

kim2649 said...

Love it! A few tears here too.

Anonymous said...

Barry, your experience with these girls is just the beginning! Kids have a way of keeping one grounded in the bliss of life! You will find your emotions more sensitive and your attitudes about things changing. I am one who has posted comments before that "you need to have a few kids and you'll think differently about {that}!" (Whatever {that} topic might have been.) I look forward to watching you grow more into "loving life" due to your kiddos! You are living "the good ol' days" RIGHT NOW!! Enjoy!

Anonymous said...

Well, I didn't tear up. However, today's post definitely adds balance to your blog. Good job, Dude!

Mental P Mama said...

Welcome to parenthood...ya done good!

Anonymous said...

Big Ed is what Mister Ed refers to when talking about his other end.

Anonymous said...

Gall darn it Mr. Green! You use you're tongue prettier than a $20 ... well, you know.

What happens in Rock Ridge, stays in Rock Ridge.

DF Taggart

Anonymous said...

Congratulations, you're a dad! Lucky girls that live in your house and play on your team.