Saw this headline in the DMN this morning...sickeningly sad. Their two children had such promise--it will be interesting to see how the story unfolds. The article mentioned that the sister had gone over to check on them out of concern...
In all seriousness, I am betting that the guy was informed by his wife that she was filing for divorce. She further informed him that he was no longer welcome in the home he was paying for and where he had lived for the last 10 years, he would have to ask her permission to speak to his children, he would have limited ability to see the children (4 days/month), maximum child support would be enforced immediately through wage garnishments, a temporary hearing on a $6000 monthly "spousal" support bill is scheduled for next month for which he would need to hire a $350 per hour attorney to send templated communications back and forth mindlessly to her attorney (because she had never worked in their 18 year marriage, she is entitled to a maximum payout) -- the good news for him was that this "spousal" support is discontinued when the divorce is final however the good news for her is that her lawyer has guaranteed he can draw it out over 12 - 18 months minimum, all of his assets were frozen until such time that divorce lawyers determined they had secured enough of his life's savings for themselves.
All of this was done by the desires of the one person who had decided to end their marriage -- NO REASON NECESSARY. She has simply decided to CASH OUT - possibly because she has been boinking the guy next door but again -- NO REASON NECESSARY, the outcome is still the same.
Bottom line from the guys perspective:
Your wife is gone. Your children are gone. Your home is gone. You are emotionally dying. You have no desire to work. Divorce lawyers control every aspect of your lives. In your devastation, every time you turn around there is someone else standing with their hand stuck out wanting more money.
Obviously, I have been there. The guy was undoubtedly wrong. There is NO excuse for what he did. I would never consider it less well carry it out but until the divorce laws are modified I am convinced we will read more stories about guy's who go ballistic.
I do not agree with what he did but I understand why he did it. My heart breaks that this is a reality in the greatest nation on the earth.
If 4:12 shares an opinion and offers a explanation, why would you tell him to shut up? It seems that he raises a quite plausible scenario that played out. Is this blog not meant to discuss such issues and share opinions?
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I will never understand..........why take other people with you?
Saw this headline in the DMN this morning...sickeningly sad. Their two children had such promise--it will be interesting to see how the story unfolds. The article mentioned that the sister had gone over to check on them out of concern...
Did they mention if alcohol or drugs were involved ?
Payments on their Adjustable Rate Mortage probably went up so much they couldn't keep up with the big house, and the pressure got to one of them.
Can I take a guess?
In all seriousness, I am betting that the guy was informed by his wife that she was filing for divorce. She further informed him that he was no longer welcome in the home he was paying for and where he had lived for the last 10 years, he would have to ask her permission to speak to his children, he would have limited ability to see the children (4 days/month), maximum child support would be enforced immediately through wage garnishments, a temporary hearing on a $6000 monthly "spousal" support bill is scheduled for next month for which he would need to hire a $350 per hour attorney to send templated communications back and forth mindlessly to her attorney (because she had never worked in their 18 year marriage, she is entitled to a maximum payout) -- the good news for him was that this "spousal" support is discontinued when the divorce is final however the good news for her is that her lawyer has guaranteed he can draw it out over 12 - 18 months minimum, all of his assets were frozen until such time that divorce lawyers determined they had secured enough of his life's savings for themselves.
All of this was done by the desires of the one person who had decided to end their marriage -- NO REASON NECESSARY. She has simply decided to CASH OUT - possibly because she has been boinking the guy next door but again -- NO REASON NECESSARY, the outcome is still the same.
Bottom line from the guys perspective:
Your wife is gone.
Your children are gone.
Your home is gone.
You are emotionally dying.
You have no desire to work.
Divorce lawyers control every aspect of your lives.
In your devastation, every time you turn around there is someone else standing with their hand stuck out wanting more money.
Obviously, I have been there. The guy was undoubtedly wrong. There is NO excuse for what he did. I would never consider it less well carry it out but until the divorce laws are modified I am convinced we will read more stories about guy's who go ballistic.
I do not agree with what he did but I understand why he did it. My heart breaks that this is a reality in the greatest nation on the earth.
4:12 SHUT UP
I think 4:12 has a good point.
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If 4:12 shares an opinion and offers a explanation, why would you tell him to shut up? It seems that he raises a quite plausible scenario that played out. Is this blog not meant to discuss such issues and share opinions?
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